Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.
That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?
The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure. Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason (via timididammae)
"Yes" doesn’t always mean "yes" when you haven’t created a situation in which your partner feels comfortable saying "no."
I feel like this should be obvious. But every time I see someone say “yes means yes; no means no” I cringe a little. Consent isn’t always that simple.
Holding someone’s hand or cuddling them or kissing them or giving them any other kind of nongenital physical affection does not unconditionally entitle you to have sex with that person. Ever. Even if you’re dating them, even if you’re in a serious romantic relationship, even if you’re married to them. You have no right to someone else’s body. Period.
“Right. So who did he find when he came here?” I asked. Usually, a few students would say, “Indians,” but I asked them to be specific: “Which nationality? What are their names?”
In more than 30 years of teaching U.S. history and guest-teaching in others’ classes, I’ve never had a single student say, “Taínos.” How do we explain that? We all know the name of the man who came here from Europe, but none of us knows the name of the people who were here first—and there were hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of them. Why haven’t you heard of them?
This ignorance is an artifact of historical silencing—rendering invisible the lives and stories of entire peoples.
[…] In an interview with Barbara Miner, included in Rethinking Columbus, Suzan Shown Harjo of the Morning Star Institute, who is Creek and Cheyenne, said: “As Native American peoples in this red quarter of Mother Earth, we have no reason to celebrate an invasion that caused the demise of so many of our people, and is still causing destruction today.” After all, Columbus did not merely “discover,” he took over. He kidnapped Taínos, enslaved them—“Let us in the name of the Holy Trinity go on sending all the slaves that can be sold,” Columbus wrote—and “punished” them by ordering that their hands be cut off or that they be chased down by vicious attack dogs, if they failed to deliver the quota of gold that Columbus demanded. One eyewitness accompanying Columbus wrote that it “did them great damage, for a dog is the equal of 10 men against the Indians.”
Corporate textbooks and children’s biographies of Columbus included none of this and were filled with misinformation and distortion. But the deeper problem was the subtext of the Columbus story: it’s OK for big nations to bully small nations, for white people to dominate people of color, to celebrate the colonialists with no attention paid to the perspectives of the colonized, to view history solely from the standpoint of the winners. Bill Bigelow, Rethinking Columbus: Towards a True People’s History (via professorpinka)
Hey, check out my new label and preorder this shit
Nervous Habit Records is proud to announce our first 2 releases: NHR001 ANGRY GODS “Greyed Delay//The Swell” 7” and NHR002 BAD SIDE “Everybody Wants Something From Me”.
After releasing a crushing demo in 2012, ANGRY GODS are back to wreck havoc on our eardrums with their debut single, “Greyed Delay//The Swell”. This 7” picks up right where they left off with their demo, but this recording seems to capture the heaviness and intensity of the band’s live show more than their previous efforts. Featuring ex-members of Boiling Over, Mans and Scout’s Honor. For fans of His Hero Is Gone, Cursed and Neurosis. Recorded with Andy Nelson at Bricktop Studios (Weekend Nachos, Harms Way and Dead In The Dirt). First press – 500 copies black vinyl
The debut 7” by Philadelphia’s Bad Side captures the ferocious energy of their live show while also revealing a band that’s not afraid to turn the hardcore formula in its head. Bad Side’s riffs are straightforward and relentless but are often strung together in unpredictable ways, keeping this record remarkably fresh. Sometimes heavy, sometimes scathingly fast, always drenched in feedback, the songs are held together by flawless drumming and tough yet inventive vocals that at times veer slightly into melodic territory. If this isn’t on repeat on your turntable this month, you’d don’t like good music. First press – 500 copies black vinyl. Live tape option with preorder limited to 50.
Record labels and distros, please get in touch about trading and whole sale.
Preorders will ship by the second week of September.
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If women covering up their bodies worked, Afghanistan would have a lower rate of sexual assault than Polynesia. It doesn’t.
If not drinking alcohol worked, children would not be raped. They are.
If your advice to a woman to avoid rape is to be the most modestly dressed, soberest and first to go home, you may as well add “so the rapist will choose someone else”.
If your response to hearing a woman has been raped is “she didn’t have to go to that bar/nightclub/party” you are saying that you want bars, nightclubs and parties to have no women in them. Unless you want the women to show up, but wear kaftans and drink orange juice. Good luck selling either of those options to your friends.
Or you could just be honest and say that you don’t want less rape, you want (even) less prosecution of rapists. A Short Post on Rape Prevention (via brute-reason)